1 year anniversary

Alhamdulillah....

today marks a year, that I've been married....it's been an amazing journey mashaAllah....inshaAllah I doa for more amazing years to come and for Allah swt to bless our marriage with baraqah, happiness and good health...ameen....

Names- recommendations

Firstly I would like to share with my readers, my baby bump a few weeks ago..masa ni around 26 weeks..

Besar kan my baby bump mashaAllah...everyone that i see will mention the size...total weight gain almost 10kgs now...but all concentrated to my face, tummy and butt...so macam tak stable, and i look like a blob...esp because my face dah soooooo bulat...i can't even look at my pictures anymore...

anyway today i decided to share some Islamic recommendations on naming our new born child. Why is it so penting to bagi our babies names with good meaning??? because Rasulullah SAW mentioned "You will be called by your name on the day of judgment' . 


Meaning during akhirat time, we only bring 2 things with us 1)our amalan and 2)our names. So i guess it is quite important to give goood meaning to our babies...fyi, good meaning not just in arabic, good meaning in any language is accepted in Islam, but of course Arabic would be the best...inshaAllah...

1) It is recommended to give the child a name indicating servitude to Allah SWT

"indeed the best and most beloved names to Allah swt are Abdullah (servant of Allah) and Abd ur-Rahman (servant of the Most Merciful)" [hadith Muslim]


2) It is recommended to name the child after one of the Prophets and Messengers- the most righteous of humanity

This also use to be practiced by the Bani Israel as the Prophet SAW informed us and approved of with the hadith:

"they use to name their children after the Prophets and the pious people that came before them" [Hadith Muslim]

3) It is recommended to name the child after pious people in Islam and to teach the children about them

Thereby the child will inshaAllah grow up to love and respect them and follow their way and adopt their manners in righteousness and knowledge.
Examples include our Khalifah, Sahabat of the Prophet Muhammad SAW and scholars male and female....Umar, Uthman, Hamza, Fatima, Mariam, Aisha, Khadijah, Asma.....

4)It is recommended to give a child a name which has good meaning.

Names which have meanings of chastity, piety, honesty, and truth and more. Indeed names that fulfill the criteria of being truthful but not boastful about the Human nature should be chosen.


"the Most truthful names are : Harith (cultivator) and Hammam (planner) [hadith Muslim]

"The Prophet Muhammad SAW said : Call yourselves by the names of the Prophets. The names dearest to Allah are Abdullah and AbdurRahman, the truest are Harith and Hammam, and the worst are Harb and Murrah."[hadith Abu Dawood]

Yes indeed....

Alhamdulillah as many have speculated and suspected.....

i'm pregnant...Alhamdulillah....

going to enter my 10th week....InshaAllah

still awal,still in my 1st trimester...i  have to make loads of doa so nothing bad happens to the baby/janin InshaAllah...

also i would like to take this opportunity to wish everyone Eid Mubarrak. and Please have a save journey masa balik kampung nanti..make loads of doa, to jauhkan ourselves from any bad incident during raya InshaAllah...

For myself, this year is going to be my first time tak balik kampung, because my morning sickness/muntah2 has been quiet bad. I'm in no condition  to travel long distance...also that's why i haven't been updating my blog, i was too weak to even open my emails and blog..

InshaAllah more baby updates after raya....

wassalam....

p/s: i know after this, sure updates more on baby then wedding..hehehe....sebab our wedding dah habis, now inshaAllah we are going to enter a new phase of our lives...parenthood....inshaAllah...

B.E.A.U.T.Y

its 2.45am now..i'm up ..yes because of nothing else but hubby wants to watch world cup...hehehe...

today i want to share on share on hair....i've gotten a few questions on where i cut my hair and stuff, and thought why not i upload an entry on it...

ok for  my hair, right now I only trust very specific places and people..hehhe...

I'm one who is very very particular with my hair..since a very young age, i always take care of my hair..because good beautiful hair can make one look really good...

disclaimer: this entry is only dedicatedf for women who wants to look beautiful for their husband and family(mahrams only)

For hair salon, my favorite right now is yes, Organic Hair Professional...in One utama, 1st floor, new wing...

why i go here??...well the biggest plus point its because all the products are organic, meaning they have less harmfull materials...since the last 10 years, my family has been practicing a healthier lifestyle, and one of the things we changed is our cosmetic/beauty product...

while i was doing my degree, i learn so many things on chemicals, and i can tell you all right now girls, there are too many unhealthy chemicals in our daily beauty products...

of course, organic product does not mean its 100% safe..but at least, they cut down the use of the main dangerous chemicals...and the shampoo smells great...so fruity...i love it...

a lot of people make fun of our lifestyle, but i truly believe in what we do...and since I've been using the proper hair care,mashaAllah, my hair & esp my scalp is feels soo much healthier..alhamdulillah...

the 2nd reason why i love going here is because, they have a private room..so yes, girls out there yang pakai tudung, they have a room here, yang they wont allow any men to enter, unless you allow them too..and mashaAllah i can say, they really respect our muslim believe...yes, of course ada extra charges, they charge extra 10%..so kalau haircut is RM 60 +10% total you have to pay is RM 66....

my fav hairstylist here is jesse...honestly i went first in early 2009..and i really wasn't that happy with jesse's cut...tapi a few months back, when i cut my hair, mashaAllah she has improved so much...now i looove it..hehehe....jesse is the only female hairstylist there...

for Man, i strongly suggest jimmy...but i have to say i'm biased, because hubby only goes to jimmy..so i havent really gotten to know any other male stylist..but jimmy has amazing memory, everytime we come , he remembers us...even though there was this one time, we din't go there for more than 6 months...and he still ingat...

on hair perming....

I would of course say organics is a better salon to go, but the price for organic perm is very mahal..but one of my friend did it..and my goodness its the most natural perm i've seen..and absolutely no chemical smell...imagine, the perming chemical smells fruity...and her hair didn't become dry at all..but the price..rougly around RM 400...but if you have the budget, please go here..its just so cantik...

for myself, clearly, RM 400 is too much...so i opted for a different perm..while many likes normail perm, i find that the curls are so unnatural looking, everyone will know, its a perm..esp those yg buat half the kepala only...

i suggest, go to thomas & guys and do the SPA PERM.....i'm not so sure the difference between spa perm and digital perm...but according to a hairstylist, the difference is on the  heating method...i have no idea actually..so i shall not elaborate...

i went to thomas and guys in shah alam Sacc mall..they are having a promotion spa perm for RM 198nett(all hair length)...the best hairstylist for perming is christine (sarawakian). She did the perm with full passion, and was so very friendly during the whole time....

this is a sample of how the spa perm curls is...spa perm is very loose, so it mainly big curls....which i love most...

and the best part about Thomas and Guys in Sacc mall..they too have a private VIP room...the cost is slightly more though sebab the VIP room here is very big comparing to hair organics is One utama......


its 3.20 am now..hmm really sleepy...

Just Beautiful

A beautiful Peom written by shima 2 weeks before she passed away, for her daughter Hylda's 2nd birthday....Hopefully one day Hylda will get to read this...inshaAllah...

I’m missing my family
I’m missing the warmth they offer
I’m missing the laughters that accompanied them always
Which magically instantly chase all the blues away..
And makes it seem possible to shoulder the world once again..

Hylda turns two today
The lonesome feels stronger today
I wish i can be with her
Singing happy birthday song to her
And see she blows the candle light away

And there he was my sweetheart
Always there
To shoo the guilt away
And bring in the sunshine to brighten up our days..
As always..

Dear Babygurl,
Daddy bought you a nice big birthday cake
For you to enjoy with your friends at school
Just in case you stopped a second to wonder
Where mommie is today..

Alhamdulillah
Allah is great
I get to see my babygurl
On her special day of turning two years old today
And the sadness slowly fades away
Seeing her singing birthday song again and again
Enjoying the attention she gets despite her mommie is away

Alhamdulillah
I am happy to see that my babygurl is happy today.. 




p/s: On behalf of her family, thank you so much for all the ucapan takziah....to adik2 yang terlibat dalam camp, kalau tahu apa jadi dekat Shima, please contact her sister...

Salam. Saya Norlina Wahid. Kakak kepada Norhashimah Wahid ingin memohon kepada sahabat-sahabat Norhashimah agar menceritakan kepada saya apa yang terjadi. Saya ingin tahu apa salah adik saya dibuat begitu. Untuk pengetahuan adik2 semua. Pihak Kem Jugra tidak pernah menelefon keluarga kami yang shima sedang sakit sehinggalah pada pagi Jumaat tersebut pihak HOSPITAL yang membuat panggilan kepada suami shima untuk pengesahan kemasukan ICU. Suami Norhashimah terpaksa memanggil nombor yang shima beri untuk pengesahan kerana takut panggilan palsu.
Pihak mereka juga tidak tahu yang shima telah dimasukkan ke hospital. Untuk pihak Kem JUGRA adik saya hanyalah satu objek yang dihantar ke hospital dan tidak perlu berbuat apa dan tidak memberitahu kepada sesiapa. 

Kepada kami dialah sumber kekuatan & cahaya keluarga dan adik kesayangan kami.

Akak tidak akan dedahkan nama sesiapa yang menceritakan apa yang terjadi. emel kan ke norlina_wahid@yahoo.com atau jika takut email dikesan hantarkan ke alamat rumah (please email sabby for alamat rumah) atau email ke mana2 wartawan yg membuat liputan tentang Norhashimah.

Kakak lakukan ini kerana tahu jika kakak yang berada situasi ini, Norhashimah akan membuat pekara yang sama dan lebih lagi....

Terima Kasih atas segala pertolongan yang diberi.

The change of plans

i received emails sayaing how excited they are to see my reception. They have a theory if my nikah is like then, that what is my reception like??

well let me tell you girls, the story behind my nikah first...

initially when me and habib planned it, it was suppose to be nikah on the 19th feb 2010, at this absolutely beautiful place, dewan masjid saidina omar bukt damansara. Same concept, where we nikah at the stage, while the guests will be seated at the tables, while watching us on the stage. To me that would have been the best arrangements, because even if i was menstruating (red flag) during the nikah its not going to be a problem, sbb the dewan is not part of the tpt solat, but i still get to nikah in a masjid. Tak ke senang macam tu?

this is sample picture of the dewan at masjid bukit damansara. Kerja kahwin did a beautiful decor here, i fell i love, i hired them to be one of my decorator, for one of the 4 events we are having in July 2010 nanti inshaAllah. p/s: dewan ni selesa sampai 250 orang.

And the reception was going to be at Dewan komuniti bukit damansara, the next day. Of course we book dewan ni dulu, baru decide tpt nikah. So May 2009, we paid full for the hall, sbb ada 2 org nak tarikh yg sama. Kalau i tak bayar full, then org lain tu akan ambil my hall..of course i did not want that to happen kan..

tapi dewan ni alhamdulilah price ok, RM 1600 sewa for 1 day.

so i figured since dah book dewan might as well i book everything else..so i pun bayar caterer utk 19hb and 20hb feb. Both caterer yg sama, Sajian D'hidang (oh food dioorg mmg sgt sedap).

dewan kat masjid utk nikah pun sudah book. so bulan ogos 2009, i pun buat my baju semua. Baju putih for nikah, and baju pink utk reception. Also we booked the photographer sekali.

But during the engagement dinner october 2009, atas sebab2 yg tidak dapat dihalang, at the end of the day kita merancang Allah swt yg menentukan, correct? We had a change of plans. There was a request of having our wedding in July instead.

Bincang2 with vendor, they cannot give us refund.... and we cannot move to july pulak because the hall is no longer available. alhamdulillah, masjid boleh cancel, sebab tak bayar lagi.

Nasib baik i took all the same vedor for 19th and 20th, so kiranya the extra deposit i paid semua pergi ke downpaymen/deposit for 20 hb feb,since i have canceled the event on the 19th feb.

 But dewan komuniti if we cancel we loose all the payment that we have done, which is dewan, makeup artist, caterer, photographer. semua pun hilang. Baju je ok coz can simpan no problem.

after byk2 fikir non stop, the only solution i had was to postponed my reception but proceed with nikah. The tricky part is i have to use all my reception vendor utk nikah. Fikir2, we all pun buat keputusan, ok proceed nikah kat dewan komuniti, but reception plan yg lain in july...

so now all the vendor yg sab book utk reception semua dah tukar jadi nikah...

so yes, that is why my nikah became like that, sbb its actually my reception. Even the pink baju was for my reception, tapi sbb the pink theme was utk dewan komuniti tu, i pun pakai je baju reception for nikah.

My white baju nikah, now dah tukar utk reception pulak...

so now what happens to my reception?...hehehhe..


let's wait for part 2, nanti byk sgt writting org malas nak baca kan??

p/s: i so wish i can wear my baju pink for my reception again...hmmm....

Its called rezeki not luck..

I have received a few emails about the nikah that i had...which alhamdulillah I'm so grateful for everything....but there was 1 email that's still in my mind..

this girl email just to say how much she envies my life, and how i had a perfect wedding...and how lucky i am for everything.......

so now i'm going to tell a story about rezeki...Allah swt is very fair to all his ummah with his rezeki..there is nothing in life comes from luck...if you feel your friend is lucky because she is rich, trust me, dalam Islam terang2 Allah SWT dah explain, you work hard ,Allah SWT will reward...but she must have spent her life, mostly with the maid bringing her up or alone because parents are too busy making money...

if you feel your friend is lucky coz she is really pretty, trust me behind that beauty there is uglyness..like she may have a bad personality, In one of the hadith Rasulullah SAW mentioned, if you marry someone for her beauty, then you will only get her beauty, but Allah swt cannot promise happiness..but Allah SWT promise, if you want happiness in marriage find a wife that is close to Allah swt and will help the husband to bring him closer to Allah swt and vice versa...

The journey of my life has been more tough than easy..and Allah swt has been very fair to me about not giving me a perfect life..and poeple that are close to me will know that...

1 of biggest lesson i have learnt from my mother is to accept rezeki masing2.. some Allah swt give them money but not happiness..while others Allah SWT may give happiness but not money..and others of course, but either way, Allah swt has promised in fairness within all the ummah...and we as muslims should always believe that...Life is full of dugaan..and all this dugaan is to see whether we become closer to Allah swt or syaitan...

happiness comes from within...its what we make out of  our on life...because we can never be happy with what we have, if we keep wanting what other people have..please remember that girls...Be appreciative with what we already have in life...then mashaAllah you will find yourself having a sense of peace within you...

Having a nikah like mine, does not guarantee me happiness in my marriage...having the most beautiful wedding, does not give anybody easy happiness in life...look at celebrity weddings for example, they have everything, money, looks, and million dollar weddings, and yet they are not happy...and get divorce after a very short period of time...

A happy marriage, comes from alot of effort from both sides..inshaAllah..May Allah swt, bless us with baraqah and happiniess in our marriage..

I just want to say don't envy for what others have,because you don't know the story behind it...

for myself it took me years of dugaan filled with cheatings, lies, heartbreaks even physical abuse and death before even meeting my hubby now...

even after we met, like everyone else, there are up and downs to every relationship...

and that my dear girls is the reality of life

wassalam,

sabby

How we met...

I've been meaning to write the entry from beginning itself but i never had the time...so finally i'm forcing my self to do it now!!!!

ok it was early 2007, I just got back from a great holiday with my girlfriends to langkawi..oh btw, if u guys want a simple holiday please stay at malibest, pantai cenang..i love that place..ok back to my story, I had dinner with one of my very close guy friend back then ROD...

So me & rod, and my 2 bridesmaids went for dinner in hartamas...and i complained to Rod, "omg i've been single for so long, u have so many guy friends, introduce la me to one of them".

I swear Rod knows a WHOLE load of guys here.... And Rod, was like...why sabby? And i told him.."i'm lonely, i hate that i go through life everyday having nobody special to share it with, apart from my friends and family of course" but having a partner is different...U guys know the difference right...hehehe...anyway..he was reluctant at first, for a reason that I can't seem to remember at all...so finally after i pujuk him for a while, he took out his phone...he was like" ok which guy do u want"?? i was like "what you want me to choose now?" he said " ya lah"..and do you guys want to know what rod did next?

He opened his picture file in the phone and started flipping pictures like a catalog, and showed me some of his guy friends..hehehe.OMG it was sooo funny..us girls was just laughing like crazy, and had a great time criticising on the many guy's picture wesaw in his phone...i was so malu at that time though..secretly....

Rod was like "come one sabby, just choose 1...and then i told him" i want a nice guy, no more bad boys,just a decent boy and he cannot smoke" he said.."hmmm non smoker...ohhh ok i have one for you...you like pretty boys kan?" we all just laughed...So he showed a picture of himself with habib, who just got back from perhentian(oh ya perhentian is fav island), while we were in langkawi.."hmm so he likes beaches too" rod said "yup just like you" and then i said, "OK hook us up"...so the conversation ended here..

All of us had our dinner...and then after dinner rod was like " sabby, he is here already" i was like WHAT?? today ke, are U serious, are you insane?? i was SOOOO not dressed, and i wasn't prepared to meet him..Rod was like, " ok too late he is here already"..urgh i was soo angry and nervous..and there he was walking towards our table .....Love at first sight?????.......

hmmm...yeah right

Habib came with like 5 people at the time..so there was like 10 people at our table..Me and habib, didn't say a word the whole night..he sat sooo far..and me and my girls, were giggling quietly and said, ok this guy is soooo not my type....

so a few weeks went by..and habib was completely off my mind..even the next day i dah lupa, coz i knew he was not my type...Habib was so berisi..and i was petite...i was only 44kgs at the time, and i was very mean..i never went out with Big guys...

one day, i got a call, it was habib...we finally spoke for the first time...so we were chitchatting...and i thought in my mind, oh crap...The more i talked to him the more i know he is not my type...

so a few days went by, he started calling me more often, sadly we still didn't have much connection......I was a working girl who was looking for stability in a decent guy after my worst relationship breakup, wheras habib was still studying, looking for just a steady...we were at different places in life...

It was one fine day, when habib called and asked me out...I was really trying to avoid it...but he was so serious..so he made a deal with me " we go out on 1 date, if still no connection, then thats it" and I finally agreed...

our first date was at Curve...We had tea at Winter warmers...oh ya it was the first time we spoke face to face...Guess what...I actually had soooo much fun.after that we went out again....and again...

and again...heehehe

..after a few more outings...we put the whole life issue aside and decided to just hang out for fun, " we both agreed to a "nothing serious" relationship..

yeah right..coz its 2010 and InshaAllah in 4 days, he is going to be my husband...

the couple of years, has been the most difficult years of my life..when i first met habib, i was a selfish girl, who only cared about my reputation, who i hung out with and my looks...shallow kan?

He sorta change me a little in that sence...made me less shallow then i use to be...through think and thin, habib was there the whole time....through every drastic life changing decisions, pmses, through every bad emotions, my dear habib still stuck by me.

oh do you guys want to know something...even when habib first met me, he had the intentions to change me..jahatkan, so much for accepting me for who I am..

But Alhamdulillah, after a few bad incidents in my life.. Allah SWT gaven me hidayah to move to a better place..to live a life which has meanings to it...for the first 23 years of my life, i never knew the answer to what is my purpose of living in the world...

Its funny how i finaly found the answer.and the answer is sooo simple..Something that we have been thought since small..an answer as simple as being a Muslim...Ohh I will get to that chapter one day..on what I mean as just being a Muslim..there is a much deeper meaning to it, than what has been thought to us in school...

wassalam,

sabby

A big thank you...

A beautiful girl told me i should stop hiding, and start writing again...

Before anything, I would like to thank every reader that has e-mailed me and posted comment on my blog, your support meant soooo much to me, you have no idea...

You girls reminded if, if you are doing the right thing, then just be strong, and follow your heart...
When i started the blog, my intention was just to share, so it will be a guide for any bride to be, because when i was surveying for my sisters and brothers wedding it was the blog that helped me most...hehehhee...

A few weeks ago, the whole incident made me forget the reason why i started it to begin with..now I want to continue sharing..with hopes that at least i can help 1 bride to be outhere..even if its a small tiny help...

Alhamdulillah, now the journey must go on..right???

p/s: for any readers out there, if my blog has offended you..please stop reading...don't visit my blog anymore... if you feel that i need to be corrected then tell me personally, e-mail me..

just ask me...why i said whatever i said... because trust me, I'm one person who always has an answer for myself...

But if you hate the hadith & Quranic versus that i quote, then that is beyond my limit..those aren't from me or not created by me suka2... they are the words of Allah SWT and our Prophet Muhammad SAW..

Upacara batalkan wudu'

Shasha asked an interesting question, about wudu' during nikah...



This is my opinioin from the survey that i have done...Wudu' is not part of the rukun nikah...so with wudu' or without your nikah will be sah inshaAllah...so don't worry so much....I think the issue nak pakai gloves should be more because male & female (non mahram) touching and issue aurat...and we all know the hukum for that..kan kan???



but no worries, there are male makeup artist yg understand, so all application they use brush x fingers and i have seen ayang kamell (not so sure) makeup with gloves...





While talking about this topic i wanted to talk about upacara membatalkan wudu'



husband and wife touch wudu' batal ke???



most Malaysians will say that touching woman/man breaks wudu’ even if one does not have desire or lust...i grew up thinking the same thing..but why???



Because our prophet Rasulullah SAW, never said that unless kalau the touch has effect on the nafsu then yes batal..but if its just terkena or terpijak or setakat a normal kiss that does not lead to any nafsu... no problem..infact ada hadith yg back up to show that he did touch his wife in wudu'



Narrated Abu Salama: 'Aisha the wife of the Prophet said, "I used to sleep in front of Allah's Apostle and my legs were opposite his Qibla and in prostration(sujud) he pushed my legs and I withdrew then and when he stood, I stretched them.' 'Aisha added, "In those days the houses were without lights." (hadith Bukhari Book #8, Hadith #379)



Another hadith narrated by `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) as recorded in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad states that the Prophet (SAW) used to kiss `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and then go to pray at the masjid without renewing his ablution(wudu').



It is clear from this evidence that touching those women/men whom Allah SWT allows us to have contact with does not break our wudu’.



If touching one’s wife breaks wudu’ the Prophet SAW would have told the people about it, and it would have been famous among the Companions of the Prophet SAW. NO Companion of the Prophet SAW has been reported to have renewed his wudu’ upon touching his wife or another woman, and there is no single hadith from the Prophet Muhammad SAW to support that.



p/s:but if any reader,that has found a stronger hadith that says otherwise, please kindly e-mail me...

Wedding according to the Quran and Hadeeth Rasulullah SAW‏

Salam

Here are some raugh guidelines on how our prophet SAW guided us on weddings in Islam..Allahu Akhbar...

1) Choose the right partner: 'men can choose women because of their wealth, position, beauty and agama,if utamakan the agama, thus u will profit from it' hadith bukhari and Muslim. 'as for the women, if comes a guy with good iman and akhlak, then marry him' hadith tarmidzi, hadis hasan(baik) menurut al-Albaniy.

2) Akad nikah at a suitable place. Paling afdal is in Masjid (but take note that women in mentruation(inclusive of bride and guests) are not allowed in the praying area, corridor/hall is allowed though). 'pukullah kompang' Hadis (hassan a.k.a good) ahmad and Tarmidzi

3) No such thing as hantaran is WAJIB...so yes if u dont hv anough money ITS OK not to have hantaran. If ada rezeki by all means (but don't forget to be humble because we if niat to riya', riya' hukum is syirik. The only thing that is WAJIB in nikah is the MAHAR(mas kahwin) firman Allah SWT in surrah al nisaa ayat no 4.(refer to alquran). the amount of the mas kahwin is determined by both the future bride and grooms family. The less burden the guy gets from collecting the mahar, the more Allah s.w.t will berkat the marriage, (refer to hadith sahih Iman Ahmad) also (hadith muslim, al-hakim, & ibnu Majah :- 'sebaik-baik mas kahwin ialah mas kahwin yang paling mudah dan ringan'

4) Give out Favours during nikah, Rasullulah SAW galakkan us to give out manisan ex:dates(kurma) during the nikah

5) Isytiharkan ur nikah kepada as many poeple as you can, so we dont create any fitnah.

6) As for the walimah, in Islam it says that 'adakanlah majlis walimah walaupun dengan seekor kambing' hadith muslim, clearly here shows that even those who don't have that much money still can afford to get married. & yes, for those with more rezeki, having wedding in hotels, halls, is still allowed in Islam, as long as your niat is not to menunjuk-nunjuk, Para tetamu has both the rich and the poor.'Rasulullah SAW says:- the worst of walimah is those who only invited the rich, and forgetting the poor' hadith bukhari and Muslim.
And hindarkan segala adat yang against Islam esp those came from other religion and culture example. 'Rasulullah SAW says 'anyone yang menyerupai adat suatu kaum, maka that person will termasuk dalam that kaum', hadith Ahmad and Abu Daud.( now this can be a big sin if the adat we are following is amongst the non believer)

7) It's Sunnah for the guests to congratulate the newlywed

8) Malam pertama, solat jemaah together (solat wajib and solat sunat) for Allah SWT will berkat a marriage when it starts the right way.

This are the only 8 things needed for a muslim wedding....so there is no such thing as kahwin nowadays is expensive, It will only be mahal if u want it to be mahal (life is all about choices). Allah s.w.t has made things so simple for everyone. It is up to us whether we want to follow the simple way. Marriage is sangat digalakkan in Islam, so I don't think we should go around telling people how expensive wedding is nowadays and how hard it is to do it.Why not instead, show people how in Islam we don't need to do things the hard way.

I went to 2 weddings 2007, the brides came from very rich families (who had their own private jet,helicopter, private yatch and many2 cars)... 1 wedding they spent RM5k total, the other one was below RM20k, after realizing there is so much more in life than just a huge grand wedding. One of them decided to give the rest of the money to the pakistan earthquake victims instead. InsyaAllah the good deed they did was accepted and rewarded by Allah s.w.t.

A reminder of life....how a split second can change everything..

Yesterday, the day after I arrived home from Aussie ( i will upload pics after this entry), my Brother in-law had a call from his mum saying that his grandma dah nazak, so he rushed from work head straight to Johor....my sis couldn't follow coz she is heavily pregnant (due next month inshaAllah)...otw at KM 192, he lost control of the car and skidded and the car over turned (terbalik) and langgar the railing kat middle of the highway..railing penetrated through the car and missed my brother by inches...

MashaAllah because airbag came out + he was wearing the seat belt + he made doa before & during the journey, he survived....he called my sis straight away, she called all of us..me and my mum rushed to melaka jasin balai polis...he was waiting there...when i first saw him I nak nangis to see him, but i had to be strong ( all this reminded me of the 2 accidents last year where i lost 2 friends, one of them was one of my closest bestfriend, this 2 accidents made me realise that i should become a better Muslim because life is really not that long, and we never know when our ajal is...)...his eye had bleeding from the impact of the airbag+crash+sunglasses he was wearing....he had scratches here and there...nasib baik the polis at jasin very baik...called tokio marine and the settled the tow truck to bring the car back to KL...while we were at the police station, got a call saying the grandma passed away....from Allah swt we are from and to Allah SWT we return....may Allah SWT forgive all her sins and make her amongst Muslims in Jannah...Ameen

as for us, we rushed back took my brother to damansara specialist...eye specialist checked his eye and neurosurgeon check his brain...alhamdulillah all is good, eye will take a month to heal...brain will take 1 week to settle down ( he feels like nak muntah, dr said because the brain was shaken to much by the overturning of the car))...the only thing is his neck fractured sikit from the impact...so now he is on a neck brace...but inshaAllah all wound will heal...just every now and then, he will feel the pain...

our car was a total lost..memang takda harapan nak repair...
mama looking at the damage,but its more important that my brother is ok..

The only small problem we had was with insurance because the car is under my dads name..but after they called my dad and settled everything, alhamdulillah all good esp because my brother was driving within the speed limit...because of the maximum insurance and that the car is fully paid, all claims inshaAllah will go smoothly...now they have to think of what new car to buy, all of us of course said, just get another japanese car again...

all I can say is I shukur Allah SWT spared his life for my sister, my nephew and future niece coming in October(inshaAllah)..

reminder to everyone, please drive safely, i know its not cool to follow the rules, but it prevents us from accidents...inshaAllah...get maximum insurance and take loan the shortest time u can afford......

Memories of the past...

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